Even if it's true, it still hurts sometimes

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I am so sorry Kelly-- the point is he did hurt your feelings and that makes me feel sad.. You have helped me so much on this site :) Not only are you beautiful on the inside but also on the outside and that is his lost, I don't think he knows how to handle the new you.. So I am praying that you can get a place of your own and have someone *****ally really appreciate you for who you are.

What are you doing in the same house with that creep. I don’t know you that is true and I do not know him, but from what you are saying, he does not deserve you. How can an x be still in the house having dinner with you? Unless you have done a wonderful job with your photo, you are pretty and don’t let anyone say you aren’t. There are a lot of other guys out there, who would love and adore you just the way you are. My youngest daughter went through the same thing recently and thought all was lost, she still loved him, but he was an abusive creep as well. Long story short, she is now with a great guy who treats her like she should have been treated all along. Just keep your standards up and don’t let some guy take advantage of you. A man needs you much more than you need any man .. remember that…   
 

How sad it was to read this about someone who goes out of their way to help so many others. I'm sorry he's like that to you. I honestly think that some people will NEVER compliment their significant other because they would rather be with someone who has a lower selft esteem so that they think that they can't do any better. Don't let him sabotage you and all that you have done for yourself. Personally, I think you can do much better.

I don't pretend to know anything about your relationship, but I have a tangible sense of that place, emotionally. I got there by a different road, but I know the landscape.

And all I can say, is **** it. What little I know about you is that you're a connected, invested person who has a vested interest in other people. And that's beautiful.

Oh Kelly.

I worry about you living with your ex. It has to hurt. I know you're not ok about how any of this is going.

I don't have any magic words or advice. Just that if I were there I would hug you. And slap him.

 Even if it's true? PULEEEZE!! Kelly there are so many things about you that are downright BEAUTIFUL. As the previous posters have listed them I won't list them. I understand that wwhat we might say here probably doesn't have the same impact that the person you have spent so many years with would have but... Listen to us! I too have seen your photos. You are a lovely young woman. AND more importantly you are so beautiful on the inside that it shows through those pictures. 
What an ass that guy is and as much as I understand that he has hurt you recently... I'm glad that you won't be around in his life when he realizes what he has lost. You deserve SO much more than that. Please find a way to get the hell away from him.
I am not the hugging type but I am sending you every positive thought I have and wishing you the strength to deal with your current situation until you are able to get away from him.

All of us deserve to be with someone who makes us feel beautiful inside and out. We have to believe that or we end up in bad relationships that make us feel badly about ourselves.

There are wonderful men out there. I've known my boyfriend for over 20 years. I met him when I was thin. He fell in love with me when I was obese. He's told me how beautiful I am each and every step of the way. Thin, fat, thin with floppy skin, and now thin with plastic surgery scars. Somehow he has always thought of me as beautiful and I am so thankful for that.

Kelly, I don't even know what you are talking about. I think you are very pretty. I know about the "sags", we all probably have it to some degree, but you are pretty. Not only that, but you are so kind. You were one of the first people to respond to my plead for someone to give me some encouragement on returning to my goal weight. I don't think I said thank you, but I will now. Thank you not only for your response to me, but to all the people you help her on OH. Forget about that louse...find someone who can see the real you!

Kelly,

 A true friend or soulmate is someone who sees our internal beauty shining thru. They see US and we are beautiful to them. I don't know if your ex is clueless, cruel or stupid but no one deserves to be made to feel like a dishrag. I am so sorry for all the pain this has caused you.  While we have never met, I have read many of your posts and I see an intelligent, thoughtful, caring individual who is as entitled to love and companionship as any of us.

I hope you can find some truth in the words of all those who have responded to your post. But most of all, I hope you come to see the woman in you who is deserving of love and respect.

Thinking of you,

Andrea.